Getting Fired Was My Best Career Move. I just didn’t know it yet.
For the first 35 years of my life, I blasted through a series of roles at top-tier companies like Google and Capital One. Fueled by the outward validation, I settled into what I thought would be the career of a lifetime as I jumped the hoops of achievements, promotions, and ever-higher bars for approval.
Then I got laid off. And it was hard to resist feeling like a failure.
For the first time in my adult life, I was not making an impressive income, collecting accolades, or traveling the world as a model employee. My psyche burned for me to get back on the success wagon—to follow the rules handed to us from society like:
- More money equals more happiness
- Achievements and accomplishments are what matter most at work
- The ideal relationship is one that lasts a lifetime
- How our lives look to others is more important than how we feel
Determined not to fail again, I dove into the science, psychology, and neuroscience of success—only to discover that the rules I’d been playing by were all wrong.
That's when I realized, it's time to flip the script.
Caring what others think ➜ Honor your instinct and your own unique path
Following the rules you’ve been handed ➜ Break the rules that don’t serve you and create your own
Sacrificing your health for achievements ➜ Prioritize your wellbeing to maximize your output and energy
Following the advice of others that don’t understand you ➜ Seek support from those who truly connect and understand your value
Prioritizing how things look to others ➜ Focus on the process and the experience you want in your career, life, and love
Molding yourself to fit your job, relationship, or society ➜ Get clear on who you are and shape your world around that.
Thinking that who you are isn’t enough ➜ Embrace your Zone of Genius and build a habit of consistently honoring and evolving in a way that is right for who you want to be.